“TIME” she whimpers to herself…
“I just never have enough TIME!” She screams with more rage.
“I spend my life tending to other people - my work, my family… I do everything for them. I don’t remember the last time I did anything for myself…”
The song of a strong woman devoted to those around her.
Time… well the truth is… it flies by with the blink of an eye, and you can’t turn back the clock.
Even if you could, you’d probably make the same decisions over and over again – you would give your time away to those you work for, and for those you care about. After all, that’s what we were taught.
Do you ever feel a sense of guilt if you even think about taking a vacation on your own? Do you feel guilty for desiring a dinner for one on the beach with your toes in the sand?
I’m here to show you the difference between being selfish, and selfless.
You see, in order for you to show up for those you love and for those you work for with the support and strength that you want to give… you have to learn how to give that to yourself first. The kicker? Well… there won’t suddenly be 30 hour days for you to do so… BUT, there’s still a way.
It all comes down to how you manage your time and energy.
For starters, putting yourself in your calendar will work wonders.
Take back your mornings, wake up even just 30 minutes earlier than you do so you aren’t rushing out the door, and make yourself a nice breakfast or a cup of tea.
(30 minutes earlier, are you nuts? I know it sounds ambitious… but try it for a week.)
Take as much time as you can to begin your morning because that will set the stage for the rest of your day.
If mornings won’t work, let’s take a look at your evenings.
When you come home, is there so much to do it just leaves you in a sad comatose of “where do I begin?”
Perfect. Take that as an opportunity to clear your mind. Take a walk in the park, sit outside for a moment with a good book… do something for you to fuel your heart and your mind, and then ‘switch the hat’ to home life.
See, the problem isn’t whether or not you have enough time… it’s about whether or not you make the time and how you manage it.
So sit down, take a look at your schedule, and see how you can rework it. See where you can fit in some moments of alone time. You may be surprised what happens when you cut back the television, wake up a little earlier, plan ahead, and communicate your needs with those around you.
The most successful people I know allow themselves that time to recharge and center so they can go at it the next day with full force.
Take your time – you’ll feel so much better.
Don’t give yourself the time, and it will catch up with you – mentally, emotionally, and physically.